"Secret Lovers"

This was one of the secrets today on the PostSecret site and if I could tell the sender something it would be this:

That married man didn't turn you into anything. Nobody can make you do anything, become someone, or feel something you do not feel.  Anything you ever did or said or felt, no matter how it related to him, was all your own doing. Did he tempt you? Did he present you with the opportunity? Did he influence you?  Perhaps.

But in the end, it was always your choice to follow this man, to engage in a relationship with this man. It was never anyone else, it was always you.

And I mean no disrespect when I say this. But I'm tired of people thinking they have no responsiblity over their own actions, even when it comes to matters of the heart.

We may not always have control over the things that happen to us, but we control how we react to them. We choose how we will handle the unforseen circumstances, the tragic events, the aching hearts. We choose.

This man did not turn you into anything. You did that to yourself.  And you have the power to undo it, as well. You have the power to be someone that is not waiting for a married man to leave his wife.

Choose to do that. Choose to be in control of your life.